Life Moment: What To Do With Those Unwanted Emotions?

Heloise "Lois" Ridley, MBA, MA —  March 23, 2016

Even in our weaknesses when we may feel, sad, tired, depressed, angry, enraged, scared, disgusted or overwhelmed… God cares how we feel. Even if it’s God Himself that you are mad at.

I think I did most of those emotions at some point in just the last week!! LOL

“Ok, so what do I do?” 

Well it depends on what rocks your boat… and how badly it hurts inside.

I may talk/cry to God about something that bugs me as I buzz around doing my  routine.

However, if it’s horrible and  involves a hospitalization of a loved one, a final, an expense we need a miracle for, a kid that is way out of line or something similar…

I need to pause to pray/weep/grieve over the situation with God.

Then I usually need to find specific Bible Verses that remind me of God’s promises to help me stand in faith. Like the one below.

Since my goal today is to also help you teach your children what to do with their negative emotions, find self-control and emotional intelligence… I will add the next picture verse: 

 It may be important to teach them to NOT do naughty things (sin) even if they are furious or sad. I don’t focus on sin but God does want them safe.

If this concept hard for you to implement with your littles let me know. It can be tricky! 

I have 6yo twins and a 10yr old still at home so I realize it’s a process to train children in self-control.

I will add the tactile things I also need to do if I’m overwhelmed with negative emotions. 

I may also journal/beef on paper about a struggle,

blast Kirk Franklin or Andi Mineo music, sing badly and loudly,

go for a walk,

dance with a baby,

or draw something about it. (My drawings look more like flowcharts but that’s ok you get the point.)

Do something with God and pour out those feelings. Getting them out is part of the healing process. Going close to God and talking to Him about how we feel is a part of the process. Then His grace and help are available!!

It’s a good deal. A trade. He takes our yuck and gives us His love.


Verse and link below:

“For we have not a high priest that cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; 

but one that hath been in all points tempted like as we are, 

yet without sin. 

Let us therefore draw near with boldness unto the throne of grace, 

that we may receive mercy, 

and may find grace to help us in time of need.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭4:15-16‬ ‭ASV‬‬ http://bible.com/12/heb.4.15-16.asv


If you know someone who is struggling please share this post with them and let me know. We all really need each other.

Blessings,

Lois

Heloise "Lois" Ridley, MBA, MA

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Heloise (Lois) Ridley, MBA,MA is a therapist specializing in Trauma Informed Care (TIC) and trauma healing. She counsels children, youth and their families for outpatient, homes and schools. Heloise trains to service providers and caregivers to equip them in TIC and numerous counseling issues such as suicide and self-harm prevention, anxiety, depression and grief. At-risk traumatized youth is her area of specialization. She loves to encourage, instruct and empower caregivers, service providers and youth to live and impact the world around them. She begins this effort with her own family with hubby and six plus a few children who are beginning to "fly" with their eagle wings.