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Even in our weaknesses when we may feel, sad, tired, depressed, angry, enraged, scared, disgusted or overwhelmed… God cares how we feel. Even if it’s God Himself that you are mad at.

I think I did most of those emotions at some point in just the last week!! LOL

“Ok, so what do I do?” 

Well it depends on what rocks your boat… and how badly it hurts inside.

I may talk/cry to God about something that bugs me as I buzz around doing my  routine.

However, if it’s horrible and  involves a hospitalization of a loved one, a final, an expense we need a miracle for, a kid that is way out of line or something similar…

I need to pause to pray/weep/grieve over the situation with God.

Then I usually need to find specific Bible Verses that remind me of God’s promises to help me stand in faith. Like the one below.

Since my goal today is to also help you teach your children what to do with their negative emotions, find self-control and emotional intelligence… I will add the next picture verse: 

 It may be important to teach them to NOT do naughty things (sin) even if they are furious or sad. I don’t focus on sin but God does want them safe.

If this concept hard for you to implement with your littles let me know. It can be tricky! 

I have 6yo twins and a 10yr old still at home so I realize it’s a process to train children in self-control.

I will add the tactile things I also need to do if I’m overwhelmed with negative emotions. 

I may also journal/beef on paper about a struggle,

blast Kirk Franklin or Andi Mineo music, sing badly and loudly,

go for a walk,

dance with a baby,

or draw something about it. (My drawings look more like flowcharts but that’s ok you get the point.)

Do something with God and pour out those feelings. Getting them out is part of the healing process. Going close to God and talking to Him about how we feel is a part of the process. Then His grace and help are available!!

It’s a good deal. A trade. He takes our yuck and gives us His love.


Verse and link below:

“For we have not a high priest that cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; 

but one that hath been in all points tempted like as we are, 

yet without sin. 

Let us therefore draw near with boldness unto the throne of grace, 

that we may receive mercy, 

and may find grace to help us in time of need.”

‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭4:15-16‬ ‭ASV‬‬ http://bible.com/12/heb.4.15-16.asv


If you know someone who is struggling please share this post with them and let me know. We all really need each other.

Blessings,

Lois

This verse explains how to help our children gain emotional intelligence and resilience. It is not easy in today’s world for our kids to navigate through social media, bullying and peer pressure. By introducing them to the One and teaching them His ways we help them understand who they really are. Not what others tell them. Our kids gain identity and emotional intelligence.

I added the framing verses in Deuteronomy those in the image above to give context. Our prevailing goal is to tightly bond our children to God and his unconditional love and encourage them to focus on his design for their lives.

Then hopefully the world cannot tell them who they are and what they should want. This of course is not a foolproof formula. It’s a relationship.

Children once they get older make choices that are good, bad, horrible and sometimes dangerous.

But….  if they know Him and His ways they may choose to seek to God to help them find their way out of trouble, depression and challenge.

If we as parents teach them… we empower them.

Blessings!

Lois

“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. 

These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. 

Impress them on your children. 

Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.

Write them on the door frames of your houses and on your gates.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭6:5-7, 9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

http://bible.com/111/deu.6.5-7,9.niv


Perhaps you to have some kids who struggle with anger? Here is a verse that helps. Once your child knows it by heart… You will only have to say the first part and they can finish it!

If we write God’s word on children’s heart He will scrub it and clean it for you.

God does the hard part!!!

 

Below is a version without my Aunti Lolo face!

Haha

I believe this says it all 🙂


Sometimes we may feel tired and disgusted. Some folks may not want to admit it because they have their “game face” on even though they are hurting inside. It’s ok. I get it….

Either way this verse is a promise from God… if we don’t quit.

 

We ask you Lord to renew our strength. We are trying our best but need a boost from You Lord. In Jesus Name. Amen.

Mommy Memories:

I loved to teach just Isaiah 40 verse 31 to toddlers with hand movements. The wee ones would be on my lap since I spent so much time pregnant or nursing somebody.  They loved to flap their wings around like an eagle, run around the room a few times and then march in place as I say it. We end it all and say “Yay, Hallelujah”

I’m sure I have an old video with the lil ones doing this on YouTube somewhere??

Maybe. I will check.

Blessings,

Lois

 


Many of us work and pray diligently to have intelligent well adjusted children. Do you?

I love this quote to elaborate on when speaking to youth. Not in a throw it in your face manor but truthfully with as much transparency as possible.

Tell me, many rough spots would you have saved if you listened to your parents?

I personally could have saved about a decade of grief. Haha

Now I have rich content for “what not to do”. I’m truly indebted to my parents who stuck it out in my young crazy years.

While Proverbs 13 has lots of great sound bites…this is a conversation starter to unpack:

“Intelligent children listen to their parents; foolish children do their own thing.”

‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:1‬ ‭MSG‬‬

http://bible.com/97/pro.13.1.msg