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Instead of Cutting… Move and Distract 

105 Ideas (Choose 10 Best for You)

Adapted from Adolescent Self Injury Foundation:

https://www.adolescentselfinjuryfoundation.com/things-to-do-besides-self-harm

Printable Handout

1.  Exercise.  
2.  Put on fake tattoos.  
3.  Draw on yourself with washable red marker - 
then take a shower and wash away your pain. 
4.  Scribble on sheets of paper. 
5.  Text or call trustworthy support immediately and ask for help. 
6.  Touch or suck on ice cubes while enjoying your favorite drink.
7.   Be with other people. 
8.   Watch a favorite TV show. 
10.  Think about how  "I DON'T WANT SCARS FOR SUMMER!!" 
11.  Paint your nails a new color. 
12.  Download a support app: Happify, Virtual Hopebox. Virtue the      app, My3. 
13.  Eat something yummy you can't resist. 
14.  Do your school work. 
15.  Write a letter to someone but never send it. 
16.  Watch aquarium fish.
17.  Call a friend and ask them to come hang out. 
18.  Play a musical instrument or sing. 
19.  Write or find poetry that expresses how you feel.  
20.  Look up at the sky, and  find the moon.  Study it. 
21.  Ask doctor about vitamins:  multi., B Complex, D, GABA
22.  Get a punching  bag and boxing gloves.  Name the bag 
then use it when you need to. 
23.  Snap a rubber band  (hair band) on your wrist. 
24.  Cover yourself with band-aids where you want to cut. 
25.  Go to the zoo and rename the animals. 
26.  Let yourself cry, even if it is hard. 
27.  Sleep,  only if you are tired. 
28.  Do the exact opposite of what you really  want to do. 
29.  Play with a pet. Visit a pet store. 
30.  Smile to at least 5 people. 
31.  Watch something inspirational on Youtube.
32.  Go out and perform one act of kindness. 
33.  Have a pillow fight with a wall. 
34.  Knit a scarf. 
35.  Read a good book. 
36.  Dress up glamorous, with makeup to match.  
37.  Color your hair. 
38.  Listen to music (non-triggering)
39.  Find a new funny meme. 
40.  Find someone else you can help.  Do volunteer work. 
41.  Meditate.  Track your breathing. 
42.  Call up an old friend and catch up. 
43.  Start a mood journal and write in it every day.  
Do patterns surface?  Track your triggers. 
45.  Go somewhere very public. 
46.  Bake cookies or another favorite food you like. 
47.  Take your own dog, or a friend's dog for a walk
48.  Chew gum. 
49.  One at a time: Use each of your 5 senses to locate 2 items. 
50.  Paint or draw.
51.  Rip paper into really small pieces. 
52.  Give someone a hug. 
53.  Record yourself. 
55.  Hug a pillow or stuffed animal. 
56.  Hyper-focus on something like a rock, stream or plant. 
57.  Write yourself an “I love you because…” letter and keep it. 
58.  Scream as loud as you want. 
59.  Dance. 
60.  Make hot chocolate. 
61.  Pop bubble wrap. 
62.  Play with play dough or slime. 
63.  Count to 100. 
64.  Build a pillow fort. 
65.  Blow up a balloon and pop it. 
66.  Hug yourself. 
67.  Write yourself an "I love myself because" letter and keep it. Read it when you feel down. 
68.  Read things in a different language. 
69.  Go for a nice long walk, or jog. 
70.  Complete something you have been putting off. 
71.  Drink a cup of herbal tea. 
72.  Fold paper and invent a new origami shape. 
74.  Build or create something. 
75. Butterfly hug yourself. 
76. Visualize a happy scene and pretend to be there.
77. Practice “square breathing” (4s In, 4s. Hold, 4s. Out, 4s. Rest).
78. Diffuse/roll-on essential oils: lavender, peppermint & favorite
79.  Cook a meal.
80.  Go out for ice cream.
81.  Buy a stuffed animal.
82.  Look at pretty things-like flowers or art work.
83.  Tighten and flex your muscles progressively throughout your body.
84.  Pray to God. Ask for His comfort.
85.  Throw socks against the wall.
86.  Make a list of blessings in your life.
88.  Rock or spin in a chair.
89.   Watch a comedy movie.
90.   Call your therapist or make an appointment with one.
91.   Talk to someone close that you trust.
92.   Feel your feet. Press them gently into the floor. Hold and release.
93.   Read the Bible or listen to the Bible App -message version.
94.   Create a “safety plan”. Carry it with you or hang on the wall.
95.   Hide under a pillow and snuggle in a blanket. Notice cozy.
96.   Color and decorate a calendar planner or notebook. 
97.   Feed the ducks / birds.
98.   Write or draw pain points on a paper then tell 
God how much it hurts. Ask for His help.
99.   View nature images online. Watch a safari or river video
100.  Yell into a pillow.
101.  Play in a sandbox or create your own.
102.  Go through all your old stuff, and donate to Goodwill.
103.  Take a walk in the woods and breathe the fresh air.
104.  Cartwheel three times.
105.  Get some toys or fidgets and play like you are 5 years 
old again!

It has been quite an era for educators to retool. Wow! I believe they are truly heroes to pour into our children despite the current global pandemic. This social media Wakelet collection was curated to provide snippets from a few Culturally Responsive and/or Trauma Informed (CR-TI) influencers. Utilizing both lenses provides more opportunities for students’ brains to engage and their hearts to heal and RECONNECT with school and learning amidst the 2020 Great Shutdown and remote learning. Please feel free to say hi or share CR-TI resources at my twitter @HeloiseRidley:

CCM Gathering Stones 2020 Reflections

We as members of the CCM counseling center team were given this prompt to reflect on and respond with how we cope and managed in 2020. My video response and a link to CCM website is below to share with you all:

“We would like to invite you to redeem the challenges of this past year. Read Joshua 4: 1-9, and find a stone to use for the following activity.

This stone ties back to the scripture to the right and is a symbol for God’s promise to you. What has God revealed to you and your family in 2020? Over this holiday season, we encourage you to sit with your family and reflect on this year – the struggles and surprises, the joys and sorrows, the grief and goodness. Invite God into this time. As you each hold the stone, share how God has made Himself known to you in 2020.”

https://www.instagram.com/p/CIV51Iml-DZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Here also is the full blog post from our counseling center:

https://www.ccmeaston.org/blog/2020/11/30/gathering-stones-stories-of-gods-faithfulness-amp-year-end-giving-opportunity

Happy New Year!!!

My heart is heavy…. 

Again injustice. Again blood shed. Again.

Piles of literature in journals with statistics that mount up to the heavens. Oppression has an impact on all of us. Our entire nation suffers when some are mistreated, neglected, violated. We know this… yet still, more more more of the same treatment. 

Now what? We need the miracle of heart level changes. 

Is one small step dealing with the tangled generational trauma that keeps giving us the same results? Violence.

Generational trauma is an emotional cancer that erodes our safety and keeps being passed down to our children who grow up learning about hatred. Our kids struggle to make sense of an illness. Then the same inequity and injustice perpetuates and rips apart our people. Like this week.

Lord help us! Our nation needs healing from the inside. Blood is on our hands. The bride needs a shower.

Only You can fix this mess. You can give us the courage to look inside. You can strengthen us. Only You have the answers we need collaboration to discover.  

A glimmer of help amidst the gulf of darkness is a movement being birthed. Generational Trauma (GT) curriculum and the Unchained documentary to help us tackle some of the onion layers of wounds. Although we weep, we ask You to help us try.

We will see your greater works Lord.

Unchained Documentary from American Bible Society on Vimeo.

A screenshot for Quest Movement where I recently attended training for Generational Trauma. This curriculum is developed in collaboration with the authors of Healing the Wounds of Trauma curriculum which has been used in 100s of countries for almost 20 years.

Quest Movement will be galvanizing to reorganize trainings and healing groups amidst changes to format required by covid19 restrictions. More to come soon…..

http://questmovement.org/generationaltrauma

90% of the World’s Students Need a New Trauma Informed Strategy

During this Covid-19 pandemic, more than 90% of the world’s students were displaced from attending school. Absolutely, mind boggling! I am more than grateful for the influx of free trauma informed care training online to support hurting students and their families. Details are below.

My Two Cents: We Will Need New Lenses

Perhaps even more critical than these last few weeks of school is preparation for start up in the fall. I do not believe in the “get back to normal” notion. We need to embrace a new trauma lens. It will be critical to prepare our educators, service providers and organizations for short and long term changes to our systems.

Retooling for School Students in the Fall… Hopefully Post Covid-19

For many months and years to come, our children will remember and respond in many ways to “The Great Covid-19 Shutdown of 2020”. Some resilient students with lots of support will seem to bounce back and perform well academically. The trick is… our students will not all bounce back. Many vulnerable kids are depressed and despondent during this lockdown. We have heard of the increase in drug use, self-harm and aggression to manage their pain. In addition, many successful students who smile and seem fine may be harboring their pain inside. All students deserve opportunities to process their emotions in order to promote long-term wellness.

Good News

The good news is we have learned it is possible to develop the emotional health of students. It is completely doable if schools and organizations prepare to put on a new lens: trauma informed care.

The free course provided by Starr Commonwealth is a good opportunity for a limited time when using the code TRAUMAINFORMED (all caps).

From their site:

“This course provides detailed information and concrete actions that answer not just the “why” but also the “how” to create the best classroom and school supports for traumatized students and the school professionals who serve them.”

The course covers many topics including:

resilience

core values and beliefs exploration

trauma’s impact on children 

fostering connections

social and emotional skills

safety 

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Enjoy!!

Heloise J. Ridley, MBA, MA