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CCM Gathering Stones 2020 Reflections

We as members of the CCM counseling center team were given this prompt to reflect on and respond with how we cope and managed in 2020. My video response and a link to CCM website is below to share with you all:

“We would like to invite you to redeem the challenges of this past year. Read Joshua 4: 1-9, and find a stone to use for the following activity.

This stone ties back to the scripture to the right and is a symbol for God’s promise to you. What has God revealed to you and your family in 2020? Over this holiday season, we encourage you to sit with your family and reflect on this year – the struggles and surprises, the joys and sorrows, the grief and goodness. Invite God into this time. As you each hold the stone, share how God has made Himself known to you in 2020.”

https://www.instagram.com/p/CIV51Iml-DZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Here also is the full blog post from our counseling center:

https://www.ccmeaston.org/blog/2020/11/30/gathering-stones-stories-of-gods-faithfulness-amp-year-end-giving-opportunity

Happy New Year!!!

My heart is heavy…. 

Again injustice. Again blood shed. Again.

Piles of literature in journals with statistics that mount up to the heavens. Oppression has an impact on all of us. Our entire nation suffers when some are mistreated, neglected, violated. We know this… yet still, more more more of the same treatment. 

Now what? We need the miracle of heart level changes. 

Is one small step dealing with the tangled generational trauma that keeps giving us the same results? Violence.

Generational trauma is an emotional cancer that erodes our safety and keeps being passed down to our children who grow up learning about hatred. Our kids struggle to make sense of an illness. Then the same inequity and injustice perpetuates and rips apart our people. Like this week.

Lord help us! Our nation needs healing from the inside. Blood is on our hands. The bride needs a shower.

Only You can fix this mess. You can give us the courage to look inside. You can strengthen us. Only You have the answers we need collaboration to discover.  

A glimmer of help amidst the gulf of darkness is a movement being birthed. Generational Trauma (GT) curriculum and the Unchained documentary to help us tackle some of the onion layers of wounds. Although we weep, we ask You to help us try.

We will see your greater works Lord.

Unchained Documentary from American Bible Society on Vimeo.

A screenshot for Quest Movement where I recently attended training for Generational Trauma. This curriculum is developed in collaboration with the authors of Healing the Wounds of Trauma curriculum which has been used in 100s of countries for almost 20 years.

Quest Movement will be galvanizing to reorganize trainings and healing groups amidst changes to format required by covid19 restrictions. More to come soon…..

http://questmovement.org/generationaltrauma

90% of the World’s Students Need a New Trauma Informed Strategy

During this Covid-19 pandemic, more than 90% of the world’s students were displaced from attending school. Absolutely, mind boggling! I am more than grateful for the influx of free trauma informed care training online to support hurting students and their families. Details are below.

My Two Cents: We Will Need New Lenses

Perhaps even more critical than these last few weeks of school is preparation for start up in the fall. I do not believe in the “get back to normal” notion. We need to embrace a new trauma lens. It will be critical to prepare our educators, service providers and organizations for short and long term changes to our systems.

Retooling for School Students in the Fall… Hopefully Post Covid-19

For many months and years to come, our children will remember and respond in many ways to “The Great Covid-19 Shutdown of 2020”. Some resilient students with lots of support will seem to bounce back and perform well academically. The trick is… our students will not all bounce back. Many vulnerable kids are depressed and despondent during this lockdown. We have heard of the increase in drug use, self-harm and aggression to manage their pain. In addition, many successful students who smile and seem fine may be harboring their pain inside. All students deserve opportunities to process their emotions in order to promote long-term wellness.

Good News

The good news is we have learned it is possible to develop the emotional health of students. It is completely doable if schools and organizations prepare to put on a new lens: trauma informed care.

The free course provided by Starr Commonwealth is a good opportunity for a limited time when using the code TRAUMAINFORMED (all caps).

From their site:

“This course provides detailed information and concrete actions that answer not just the “why” but also the “how” to create the best classroom and school supports for traumatized students and the school professionals who serve them.”

The course covers many topics including:

resilience

core values and beliefs exploration

trauma’s impact on children 

fostering connections

social and emotional skills

safety 

play

Enjoy!!

Heloise J. Ridley, MBA, MA

Trauma Healing Online Groups

This organization, Quest Movement in partnership with American Bible Society’s Trauma Healing Institute is both training individuals as facilitators and running trauma healing groups individuals could join. I enjoyed my training opportunity and even learned a few new zoom tricks needed to run groups. Their 1 day trauma healing groups are scheduled through May and June. Totally free.

From Quest Movement website:

Community Healing Circles

We provide a safe place for traumatized victims to work through their pain and grief in our facilitated Healing the Wounds of the Community Heart Circle.   Theses groups are located in Gloucester, Camden, Burlington, and Atlantic City.  We utilize curriculum written by Trauma Healing Institute under American Bible Society.  We partner with local agencies and churches

Repost of an original after my Enoch Homeschool convention presentation – May 26, 2016 entry due to our temporary season homeschooling the minis again during covid-19 quarantine after a two year break! Powerpoint included to help families organize

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